To anyone who participates in destroying their own community, Your frustrations are misguided and you are now just as much a part of the problem as the ones you despise… This is a social economic issue masked as an issue of race.. What’s going on in Baltimore is the culmination of decades of neglect to what was once the “middle class”… This is the product of a 25% unemployment rate in a city where their is no trust between the people and police… Uneducated, under privileged, unemployed, and angry… Some people riot when their Collegiate sports team wins a big game… Some people riot when they’re tired of seeing men killed by the police weekly as if we don’t live in a society governed by a court system based off the concept of “Due Process”… Also it isn’t that people feel like their lives don’t matter specially because of these recent “incidents”… They feel this way because their schools are neglected, their needs aren’t met, they aren’t making enough money to pay their bills because the wages offered are often insufficient in maintaining the standard of living we’ve become accustom to, and then to compound all these problems many of these people have no self worth because they’ve never been taught how to love who they are.. This is an issue of humanity caused by the disconnect between human-beings along with the collapsing of a weakened social economic structure put in place to keep the real wealth in the hands of a few while consistently increasing the disparity between the richest and the poorest.
No matter what you do, no matter how many times you screw up and think to yourself, “Dang I can’t do this.” or “There’s no point anymore.” … no matter how many people tell you that you can’t do something – Do it! Don’t quit! Look back at my story, Living proof.
That’s the attitude that I have on the daily. Because a month or so from now, I will be that much closer to my goal. There’s no reason you shouldn’t be either. I will continue this pattern. Nothing happens overnight. Make today count. Be strong. Do what you gotta do.
Giving up is not an option. If you feel that you can’t overcome your obstacles try to believe in yourself more. Learn from your failures absorb what you did last and make it better the next time round, because if you have the right mindset you will prevail. You will prosper. It’s inevitable. But giving up is only stopping you and making you weak. Stay strong and remember you have the ability to achieve amazing things like anyone else does. Keep focused because surrendering is non existent in your life!!
“Sometimes it’s soft as a misty rain, that gently touches my soul” -SWV
Sometimes, it really is.
In this culture we’re taught to ‘dream big’. To ‘set the bar high’. We’re less seldom reminded to be thankful all of the so-called little victories that we achieve multiple times each day.
Have you ever sat and just reflected on how blessed we are to be able to inhale and exhale oxygen? Something as routine and mundane as your lungs taking in air, as your chest heaves up and down, and several seconds later exhaling that same breath just as rhythmically, is often taken for granted.
Maybe if you were asthmatic you’d be more mindful of something as boring as breathing?
Dead people can’t breathe you know. Those who are no longer with us might see something like being able to breathe as ‘dreaming REALLY big’.
Something as fundamental to our existence as oxygen should be given more appreciation, as should those other lesser publicized moments in our lives.
You should cherish those moments where your son says, ‘Mom, I want you to know that I love you, and I like that I can come to you and talk to you about stuff.’ Some people wish they still had an opportunity to share a special moment with their child, and would not be so presumptuous as to take it for granted.
How about the next time someone pays you a compliment, like ‘girl, i like your hair’, or ‘you wearing the hell outta that dress, sis’, or ‘ooh, you smell really good today, bruh’, you take some time to really reflect on someone taking the time to acknowledge a fundamental aspect of your personhood? It’s not necessarily that they are remarking on your physical self, the comments are actually more about the humanity they see in you and that your physical self is an outward expression of the person they see inside of you.
Do you know how much thoughtfulness and beautiful energy it takes to authentically express appreciation for someone, expecting nothing in return but to reaffirm that person’s self worth? It’s a small gesture, that has the potential to make someone feel ten feet tall.
And as those who are the receivers of the compliment, we must try to see it for what it is.
The way you respond to someone’s compliment, might in fact make them feel even better than they just made you feel. Sure, sometimes there are ulterior motives for someone complimenting you on how you look, or on some other aspect of yourself, but despite their motivation for giving you a compliment, your response should be just as pure as the motivation you seek from them when they give the compliment. To dismiss someone’s compliment to you as ‘game’ is just as disrespectful as if the compliment the person gave was indeed just game.
And you know, nine times out of ten, those same compliments that you take for granted today, game or not, at some point in the future you might really want…and one day might really need.
In essence, it’s about a reciprocity that we owe to the universe. For all the beautiful, yet so simple, things we are blessed to enjoy in our lives, we have an obligation to return that beauty, personified in the ways we live our lives and express our personhood to each and every person we meet, and for each and every experience we are blessed to have.
There are blessings every moment, that express themselves in ways we may not even realize until they no longer exist. And most often, they are soft as a misty rain, that gently touches our souls.
There is no such thing as a pair, forced relationships will end up as far from each other as they possibly can get. There is no such thing as coincidences, they are mistakes twisted by the optimistic. Life will take you on the steps that you chose, never let anyone tell you which way to go. I’m never here to show you how to walk, I’m here to explain how to tumble and fall with grace. Your friends may have been born with a silver spoon, you were born with one made of gold. The ignorant will rely on that spoon to eat, the intelligent will melt that shit and sell it for their own dream. The craziest things in life will become the most memorable even if met with adversity and pain. Few remember what they did with yesterday’s nominal day, make yours exciting and make every second count. Try your own doors, make your own matches, only an idiot lives for someone else’s faith. It’s Tuesday be sicker than your fucking average. The moral of this story is take my advice to create your own. I hit my share of walls, shit we all do! The best advice I was ever given wasn’t how to prevent the wall, but to get back up with pride when I hit it.
Talk it’s cheap.
Initiative is priceless.
I take caution to yellow lines and white lies. Folks down to travel through a yellow brick road with you, but when you start walking down the road less traveled. They complain about the gravel in their shoes, the overgrown obstacles, they say aren’t worth it. They suggest microwave ideas. They idealize living instead of doing. They keep stopping and turning back only to step up when the Sun shines on you. But In your darkest hours they are ghosts silent and preying on your soul leaching into an idea. Yet you step out of the bush and find a paradise on you have earned by being CONSISTENT. So take the keys and let them feel the smoke in the dust. They weren’t with you when you were shooting in the gym. They’d rather be elsewhere. So you speak so shall it be.