“Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time” — 1 Peter 5:6 NIV
“Sometimes it’s soft as a misty rain, that gently touches my soul” -SWV
Sometimes, it really is.
In this culture we’re taught to ‘dream big’. To ‘set the bar high’. We’re less seldom reminded to be thankful all of the so-called little victories that we achieve multiple times each day.
Have you ever sat and just reflected on how blessed we are to be able to inhale and exhale oxygen? Something as routine and mundane as your lungs taking in air, as your chest heaves up and down, and several seconds later exhaling that same breath just as rhythmically, is often taken for granted.
Maybe if you were asthmatic you’d be more mindful of something as boring as breathing?
Dead people can’t breathe you know. Those who are no longer with us might see something like being able to breathe as ‘dreaming REALLY big’.
Something as fundamental to our existence as oxygen should be given more appreciation, as should those other lesser publicized moments in our lives.
You should cherish those moments where your son says, ‘Mom, I want you to know that I love you, and I like that I can come to you and talk to you about stuff.’ Some people wish they still had an opportunity to share a special moment with their child, and would not be so presumptuous as to take it for granted.
How about the next time someone pays you a compliment, like ‘girl, i like your hair’, or ‘you wearing the hell outta that dress, sis’, or ‘ooh, you smell really good today, bruh’, you take some time to really reflect on someone taking the time to acknowledge a fundamental aspect of your personhood? It’s not necessarily that they are remarking on your physical self, the comments are actually more about the humanity they see in you and that your physical self is an outward expression of the person they see inside of you.
Do you know how much thoughtfulness and beautiful energy it takes to authentically express appreciation for someone, expecting nothing in return but to reaffirm that person’s self worth? It’s a small gesture, that has the potential to make someone feel ten feet tall.
And as those who are the receivers of the compliment, we must try to see it for what it is.
The way you respond to someone’s compliment, might in fact make them feel even better than they just made you feel. Sure, sometimes there are ulterior motives for someone complimenting you on how you look, or on some other aspect of yourself, but despite their motivation for giving you a compliment, your response should be just as pure as the motivation you seek from them when they give the compliment. To dismiss someone’s compliment to you as ‘game’ is just as disrespectful as if the compliment the person gave was indeed just game.
And you know, nine times out of ten, those same compliments that you take for granted today, game or not, at some point in the future you might really want…and one day might really need.
In essence, it’s about a reciprocity that we owe to the universe. For all the beautiful, yet so simple, things we are blessed to enjoy in our lives, we have an obligation to return that beauty, personified in the ways we live our lives and express our personhood to each and every person we meet, and for each and every experience we are blessed to have.
There are blessings every moment, that express themselves in ways we may not even realize until they no longer exist. And most often, they are soft as a misty rain, that gently touches our souls.
I pay homage to those before me, I never took their dream, I always followed my own. Never was I taught about what I profess, I was given guidelines by a brilliant man. Why I was supported by many was because I was determined to do me. Even though I picked my own poison, the support was always the antidote. My good friend Darrell was muscially gifted, I am musically illiterate. Determined not to limit myself, my journey was always to be a dare devil and try anything once. The glass was never half empty, fuck that, I keep that shit full. It’s #Monday and the most important thing that I learned from the passing of Darrell was that when you’re UP, you’re UP, and when your down you should still stay UP! Life comes in circles, it’s up to you to break the barrier. Cheers to a loved one you lost that gave your life new meaning, new motivation! We buried the body but not the man. Life will go on and while creating my own legacy I will hold his like a trophy.
Who are you when you aren’t looking? Have you ever thought about it; the YOU you are without you noticing, when you are so caught up in what is happening to you that you fail to notice what you are becoming? YOU are happening too, you know. We just often fail to notice because we aren’t paying attention to the person we spend the most time with; ourselves. Just like breathing, who we are throughout our life “happens”, whether we are thinking about it or not; we resort to habits, to the way we usually do things. And we get by. But that is no way to live. Like breathing, when you THINK about it, it becomes so much more important, so much more meaningful. It is as if, if you stopped TRYING to breathe, you would stop. Then some time passes, it slips our mind, and we breathe once again without a second thought. There is a reason that so many faiths and spiritual practices focus on breathing and being mindful; you can breathe without thinking about it, but to control your breathing is to master yourself. And once that happens, nothing is outside of your reach.
There are two things you can learn from my success, the first being that my mistakes are what ultimately matter. I learned a long time ago that a square doesn’t fit in a circle, but sometimes you just need to jam it in. I am many things to many people, some value it, others don’t. My character is to me what your credit score is to you. The best way to lead by example is to be yourself even when you can’t see whose behind you. Accountability has its privileges, there is no end to the platform of possibilities. The second thing to learn from me is that my rhyme always has reason. Even when people count it out, maybe it was never meant to count in. Years to DONT make you wise, failures do! I never want to know the guy who made it the biggest, I always want to meet the guy who lost it greatest. Compromising is the greatest asset, only a fool stands alone proud of his pride. When the book opens, try your hardest to make the page. Only an amateur thinks the author actually controls the success of his story. It’s Tuesday, and I would rather be the librarian than the fucking author. A wise man knows when to leave the card game, but he’s only wise if he has somewhere else to be. Never bite the hand that feeds you, opportunities do come once in a lifetime. The Sensei may be outgrown by the student, but that doesn’t mean the next Karate Kid will be nearly as successful as the franchise.
Time to refocus on what is important in our lives. What is it that we are truly after. We chase a dream, we set goals, we put expiration dates. So what is holding you down? The answer is simple, You. If you live in the past, wondering what if things would have been different, had I been taught differently things would have been better today. You have to get over whatever has happened in your past, it is gone, never to return. The focus of looking into the future will eventually be your now, so begin living for today as today is your now. Everyday you go out and build the business that you’re in at the end of each day review your progress. If today you had a setback, don’t get stuck on it. Move past it, look at your dream board and focus on how great today was. You had the chance to see something new or meet someone you never met before. Know that tomorrow will be even greater than today as each day that passes will be greater than the last, because we can still do something with tomorrow. Yesterday will forever be gone. Be blessed family.